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YL Podcast #11: Face of Fear

Podcast

Part 2

The Face of Fear and Outside Forces

  • The Face of Fear is real.
  • “Fear is a great teacher!”  FALSE!!
  • Coach the whole person.  Not just the athlete
  • “We are fooled into believing fear is a positive emotion.” – Brendon Burchard in the Motivation Manifesto
  • “Fear harms more people in life than those who benefit from it.” – Burchard
  • “We have distorted fear into a tool for the ego’s protection.” –  Burchard

Ego

  • The drive to maintain or enhance good views of oneself or that of the inflated opinion.

Constructed Fear

  • Not trying a new game
  • Playing it cool
  • Sitting passive

If I don’t go then I won’t fail mentality

  • Stuck in the void
  • No skin in the game
  • No learning takes place
  • No joy is found
  • No life-giving rewards achieved

The gravitational pull of this mentality

  • The destroyer of good teams/culture
  • The PE class with doers and the nondoers
  • Friend circles
  • Working culture

Organic positivity fertilizes organic positivity

Strategies for overcoming FEAR

  • Tame the mind
  • Look fear in the eye
  • “Attempting to conceal fear as a friend is like forcing a wolf to be a pet.  Soon the pet will eat us alive.” Burchard
    • We will regret our inactions and this will have negative consequences on our confidence.
    • Confidence erosion through inaction
  •  Triggers
    • Is what I’m telling myself a lie deep down?
    • On the Journey to Betterment mentality
  • “A lot of good people have chosen the shallow end of history.  They never really made their mark in the deep end.” – Burchard
  • Brandon Lilly +1 mentality
  • Just go!!
  • Conclusion

Listen to Face of Fear Part 1 here.

Face of Fear

Podcast

The Face of Fear Introduction Part 1

The Face of Fear

  • Fear is a disliked emotion caused by the belief that something is dangerous, likely to cause pain or a threat. – Burchard
  • True Fear Examples
    • Attacking dog
    • Pointed gun
    • Falling to our death
    • Turbulence on a plane
    • A child falling down the stairs
    • Podcasting / teaching / public speaking
  • Fear grips us
    • Can be a tool for good and bad
    • Fear can torment us

Fears Impact

  • Fear takes us from our freedom
    • We ultimately want to be free inside out and outside of ourselves.  
    • The internal dictator
    • We want the freedom to do what we want to do.
    • What is the internal voice saying?
  • The straight jacket that restrains the soul/life/joy
  • Fear sometimes doesn’t allow us to imagine our greatness

Types of Fear

  • Fear of Judgement
    • Judgment of others or being socially oppressed
    • How will people react to me when I do this?
      • If I make a podcast, what will people think?
  • Fear of Rejection
    • Talking about self-oppression
    • You psych yourself out or tell yourself “NO”
    • I’m not deserving
    • Self-sabotage
    • Asking for the desired position at work and the fear of rejection
  • “We fuel fear with small thoughts that betray our magnitude.” – Burchard
  • Courage and fear collide
  • Wrap up…

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