Don’t live with leadership regret, but be courageous!
During the 2003 football season, in a dimly lit auditorium, walked in an unknown face. A short muscular man paced the tile floor with purpose, delivering a message with a resounding voice. His message resonated with me deeply. He spoke with passion and purpose, reinforcing his words with stories of leadership. Holding teammates accountable, pushing one another for additional reps, and not settling for imperfections.
“Touch the line! We don’t take shortcuts!”
It was the first time I recognized that leadership is an acquired skill. Up to this point, I thought leaders were born with this exceptional trait. It wasn’t on my radar that I could acquire skills to help others reach their capabilities and my own.
“I’m going after another rep, who’s with me?”
This was before the days of leadership books, YouTube inspirational videos, blogs, and podcasts. High school kids were not often privileged with professional speakers who had deep insight into the craft.
“Here’s what I see when you run this route, maybe try this approach next time and see if it works for you.”
I left that meeting with a new perspective. I would like to say I became a top-tier leader who rallied the troops. I remember a moment during conditioning months later, where I attempted to get my teammates to push for additional “gasher” reps to get better and push our limits. Many of my teammates had no desire and walked away. I walked away defeated and wondering if leadership was for me. A moment of defeat that made me hesitate, step out, and vocalize inspirational words.
“Today is an opportunity to train our craft. What can we get better at? Where can we improve by 1%?”
Years later, I became a football coach, where I continued to build my leadership craft. I always envisioned myself giving heroic speeches and pushing my guys to greatness. It didn’t work out that way, and I found that coaching is not about speeches and whoraah moments. It is the art of teaching, preparedness, and trust.
Countless times as coaches, we pushed our players to step out and lead. Tracing my leadership journey, I can see why so many are hesitant to vocalize their leadership. It creates a nervousness that is hard to face. There is the possibility of judgment that can be debilitating. For many, that is difficult to overcome. The internal voice that screams that we are not enough to lead, known as impostor syndrome.
To defeat impostor syndrome, it requires learning, preparation, and a bit of fortitude. I often reference the Bible, when God instructs us to be courageous. He ordered Moses and Joshua to trust in Him and be courageous to lead their people. God understands that people are judgmental and naturally hesitant to trust, and it requires boldness to lead. We must not be afraid to communicate a mission and inspire those around us with belief and action.
“I see your gifts! Use them for goodness, and don’t allow yourself to play small!”
Trust your internal voice and train in leadership. Be courageous when opportunities surface. We must not become timid and let unique opportunities pass, where we could provide inspiration. Those moments of inaction create regret, which are hard to sit with.
Keep moving forward!
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